I hear this a lot: Fashion isn't for real women.
There is some truth to that but mostly it is false.
Most girls we see on the runway are under the age of 18. And most of them are below a 0 and don't have any shape to them whatsoever. Truth: that is needed for couture.
Here are where the false answers come in. The average size women in America is pushing a size 14 and there is nothing wrong with that if you feel beautiful. I recently got into a heated debate about religion. I am indifferent about it- but if religion makes you feel like you belong, and makes you feel better about yourself and you ARE NOT harming anyone else or offending anyone else- than who am I to tell you not to be a part of it? If you are a size 14 and you feel beautiful, and you are confident and comfortable than don't let other people call you big, fat or plus sized.
There is fashionable garments made for real women- you just have to be willing to pay the price. Because of the larger size, more fabric is used, and it is constructed completely different than a sample garment- and that is what you are really paying for. Customization to your body. Fit is everything- remember that when going shopping.
Women are gorgeous at every level and one thing you have to do is remember that. I think part of being a woman is taking the responsibility for caring for yourself. I am not talking about being a size 2- I am talking about the responsibilities of being healthy and put together. I hear a lot of women complain all the time about fit, and make up and shoes- it goes on and on and on. They say they can't diet etc etc etc- so here it is ladies- I am going to lay out some responsibilities to yourself.... You don't have to agree but I am just saying it will help in the long run...
1. Exercise. Stop looking around for the closest parking spot and park the furthest away and walk. When doing the laundry pick up the bleach or detergent bottles and do 10 bicep curls (it takes 30 seconds). During commercials- don't flip the channel but get up and walk around. Try to walk around a park for 30 minutes twice a week. Trust me- exercise creates endorphins and endorphins make you happy- and people will be attracted to you.
2. Take care of yourself first. Stop thinking it is your job to save the world. (I know a lot of women like this, and yes I know it is hard if you have kids.) But seriously take 30 minutes out of your day for you. At night put moisturizer on so you save your skin, that way in 10 or 20 years you aren't complaining about your skin. In the mornings put on a tinted moisturizer, apply a deep rich brown mascara instead of black, and put on some chap stick. (keep your lips hydrated! Your husband or boyfriend will thank you.) And then spritz some body spray or perfume and start your day.
3. Don't buy the clothes if they don't fit. Stop buying 5 dollar shirts that don't fit, or fade. Don't buy clothes that aren't going to flatter your body or you don't feel comfortable in. I always hear: this is all they had. Well go to a new store then. If Norstroms is out of your price range there are plenty of alternatives. Lane Bryant, Dress Barn, and Target are catering to real women and they are bringing in great designers. Especially Target with the go global brand.
4. Stop making excuses about your appearance. Believe it or not, whether your husband tells you differently (he is most likely lying) MEN WANT SUBTLE SEXY. Stop wearing sweats, or letting yourself go with the stain that your kid spilled on you during lunch. After a hard days work- a man really doesn't want to come home and see a mess on his wife. He really doesn't- So make sure you look nice for him. My sister wears acrylics just because her husband likes them, and she hates them. It doesn't hurt to put on accessories before he gets home- like a necklace he gave your earrings. Another great accessory are stylish flats or kitten heals. I am not saying pull out the stiletto but a wedge or espadrille will do. Stop wearing things that are not in trend, or don't fit- Wear clothes that flatter your body and that shows who you really are- both physical and emotional.
5. Finally, feel beautiful. No one has the right to make you fell unattractive. You can't wear something unflattering, trashy, or dirty and expect people to compliment you- no matter how confident you are. Sexy is not beautiful either. Beautiful is being confident in who you are, what you are wearing, and what you are doing in your life. Being beautiful is not imitating the girl on playboy or hustler- it is wearing something that your husband might like on you. Feeling beautiful even starts on the cellular level of endorphins and feeling happy.
GO BE BEAUTIFUL AND RESPONSIBLE.
Reviewing my daily life...